Firestarter wrote: ↑Sun Dec 04, 2022 8:12 pm
So it's the other way as how I understood it... English isn't my first language.
I think that you have taken Felix's thread on "narcissistic abuse" too serious; it seems to have had a negative influence on your trust in people.
Most people that you have a problem with aren't narcissists. It could actually be the other way around, as narcissists in general are good talkers and fun to be around...
Despite what he suggests, and what you believe, Felix is NO expert on narcissism or how to deal with it.
That's not even counting that what may work well for him, won't work for most other people.
I wouldn't have guessed that English isn't your first language Firestarter, I'd no idea
Your English is that good.
As for the rest of your post, it's like what I typed before, for anyone here who hasn't gone through this in any serious way, count your lucky stars. I'd rather not get into things too deeply on an open forum format here as it's personal, but Felix, myself and many others here have gone through (indeed,
many are still going through) this mental torture
, for that's what it is. And, false modesty aside, Felix, myself and others on here are very knowledgeable on the topic, putting the effort into delving deep into what is often a painful subject, and willing to make the efforts to learn and heal from this very emotionally painful experience.
Honestly Firestarter, your post above is both glib and dismissive in tone. I hope that you don't take this the wrong way, as I've found your posts to be suppostive in the past on a few occasions. However I felt the need to answer in a frank, straightforward manner, as I don't take narcissistic abuse "too serious"; I take it "extremely seriously"
because I know how it can, and often does, ruin people's lives.
Indeed, just before seeing your post I was watching the video linked below, as I still like to educate myself as to the evil tactics
full-blown narcissistics can employ. I'm not just throwing out words here for effect; malignant narcissists are evil people
they have in effect given up on having love in their lives and are out for destruction (even their own). On the thread twenty pages+ long which Felix begun there are many fine posts wthat forumites have posted. To make your comments above about these efforts in such an offhand manner smacks of invalidation, of trivialising a dynamic that often has horrendous effects. Frankly, for me your post borders on the insulting, which is why I'm responding in this fashion. If it's surprisingly strong for you, well you might realise that I'm very passionate about this phenomenom.
Narcissistic abuse ruins lives. I propose that this is the real pandemic of modern times, blighting the lives of many millions. It deserves, no demands, to be taken very seriously indeed
"If you already know it is bad and do it, you commit a sin difficult to redress."
G.I. Gurdjieff (Aphorism 8)